"I stand at the altar of murdered men and while I live I will fight their cause." — Florence Nightingale

The memory of Florence Nightingale still ripples throughout Europe and North America. Documents about her life remain and uphold her legacy; in many ways, she has become something of a mythological figure. Even in life, there was merchandise relating to her, but it’s taken on a new life in books, valentines, and even colouring pages. She’s remembered as a no-nonsense feminist icon, a tender motherly figure, the founding of modern-day nursing, and even the hero of nursery rhymes. Less discussed in the possibility that she was a lesbian and/or asexual.

It must be noted that Florence Nightingale came from a wealthy family, and lived with all of the obligations and privileges associated. Born in Florence, Italy in 1820, her parents not only believed women should be educated in the same manner as men, but they had the fortune to make it happen. Nightingale and her sisters had tutors from whom they learned languages, mathematics, religion, and many other topics that would prove useful in her later career.

She fell in love with learning from a young age and took to mathematics quickly. She had a particular skill and devotion to statistics that would follow her throughout her life. She later tutored children in mathematics and used her skills heavily in her nursing career.

While she was afforded much more freedom than many women, her mother was a firm believer in social climbing. As such, Nightingale took part in many social gatherings, often called severe and “awkward” by her contemporaries. She gravitated more to intellectual discussions where she was able to shine rather than social niceties she felt stifled by.

Along with the parties, she was expected not only to be courted but also wed. While she was ambivalent about courtship, she firmly denied marriage. Nightingale, a deeply religious woman, revealed that G-d had called her to serve as a nurse. Though a call from G-d was one of only a handful of ways a woman could get out of marriage, it was still not a popular declaration. Her family was against not only her refusal to marry but her choice of profession.

Nursing was looked down upon with a mix of classism, sexism, and legitimate concern over the lack of training given to most nurses at the time; many caused more harm than good. Nightingale was never more determined to pursue this path than when she met Elizabeth Blackwell, the first woman to become a doctor in the United States of America.

After turning down countless proposals, nursing relatives, and working tirelessly without the support of her family, they relented. Using their money and connections, they finally accepted her choice and supported her career.

She was afforded the rare opportunity to travel, visiting Rome, Germany, Greece, and Egypt. She partially fell in love with Egypt; she wrote of the Abu Simbel temples:

"Sublime in the highest style of intellectual beauty, intellect without effort, without suffering … not a feature is correct—but the whole effect is more expressive of spiritual grandeur than anything I could have imagined. It makes the impression upon one that thousands of voices do, uniting in one unanimous simultaneous feeling of enthusiasm or emotion, which is said to overcome the strongest man."

By the time she settled in London to work as the superintendent at the Institute for the Care of Sick Gentlewomen, she had already published work in Germany and made connections within the medical community that would benefit her for the rest of her life. Her father showed his support financially, sending her an annual income of £40,000 in present terms. This allowed her to live beyond the low pay given to nurses.

Her early life built the base for the woman Florence Nightingale would become and be remembered as; the money, the connections, the knowledge, and the experiences all informed her future.

Though Nightingale’s career is the star of her story––the founder of modern nursing is an incredible credit––the extent and nature of her work is a bit different than what is said. Remembered primarily as The Lady with the Lamp, a nurturing angel who helped sick soldiers, there is much more to her story.

Florence Nightingale published over two hundred pieces of literature, mainly focusing on medicine. It is through her book Notes of Nursing that she made her largest impact. Joan Quixley from Nightingale School of Nursing wrote:

"The book was the first of its kind ever to be written. It appeared at a time when the simple rules of health were only beginning to be known, when its topics were of vital importance not only for the well-being and recovery of patients, when hospitals were riddled with infection, when nurses were still mainly regarded as ignorant, uneducated persons. The book has, inevitably, its place in the history of nursing, for it was written by the founder of modern nursing"

Much of what she wrote was learned through her travel assisting hospitals. In 1854, her work brought her and thirty-eight other nurses to the British camp in Crimea, an area with a staggeringly high death toll. Upon her arrival, the reason was clear to Nightingale.

Much of the work seen as “beneath” doctors, including cleaning, hygiene, and maintenance, was completely ignored. Enlisting the help of the hospital’s least injured men and hundreds of scrub brushes, she and her nurses cleaned up the area.

Men who had been stuck in unclean beds in their own feces were cleaned and given laundered sheets. Doctors and military officers protested the women wandering their hospital and ordering men to clean up after themselves—including the high maintenance request to wash their hands—not only because they were women but also because they believed it unnecessary.

Nightingale defiantly continued her work, later writing in a letter:

“People say that soldiers are malingerers & carry a wounded man to the rear to get out of the battle. My experience of soldiers is that they will go back into the fight to find a prostrate comrade or their wounded Officer - & fight their way again bringing him with them - or as often happened leaving their own lives behind.

May I be worthy of them!”

The men considered her a mother figure, and they were her sons. They remembered her fondly, many praising her later in life.

Though her time in Crimea is remembered most for her interactions with the soldiers, Nightingale focused much of her labour on statistics. She was a smart woman, and she knew she couldn’t do this on her own. She spent quite a bit of her time interacting with the press in order to bring attention to the plight of soldiers, using her connections to uplift her cause.

Sharing the statistics she had gathered, she showed the horrifying mortality rate and revealed that, along with injuries from the war, many soldiers died from the unhygienic conditions of the camps. Her work revolutionized the idea that social phenomena could be mathematically measured and analyzed. She was a pioneer in the collection, tabulation, interpretation, and graphical display of descriptive statistics. She would go on to become the first female member of the Royal Statistical Society in 1858.

One of her biographers, Mark Bostridge, wrote of her saying:

“Like everybody else I had been brought up on the sentimental legend which thinks of her as a ministering angel and a nurse, and of course she was never a nurse, except in a very limited sense. She had a brief period in Germany before the Crimean War doing basic nursing training, and when she got to the Crimean War she did hardly any nursing at all, and never did any nursing subsequently. So to think of her as a nurse is such a ridiculous thing. What she was is a great nursing theoretician."

This does indeed seem to be the case. After the war, she returned home to teach and work with politicians. Informed by her time in Crimea, she focused her energy on the poor, believing that they deserved hospitals kept to the same standards as the ones for the wealthy. She wrote about the dignity that should be afforded to all sick people, pioneering methods we now view as common sense including making sure patients can see those talking to them.

She may have become more compassionate after becoming sick herself while in Crimea. She spent the rest of her life with chronic pain and what is known now as Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, often working from bed.

Throughout her life, there is little evidence of Nightingale’s sexual relationships with anyone. However, there are some indications she may have had romantic relationships with women, as she wrote:

"I have lived and slept in the same beds with English Countesses and Prussian farm women. No woman has excited passions among women more than I have.”

It is entirely reasonable to suggest that Nightingale may have been a lesbian; her writing was common of the time and as such include few concrete examples of any relationships. Whether she was a lesbian or not, she was very likely asexual. There are many records of her feeling disconnected from sexual attraction, and no evidence of her engaging in or even pursuing a sexual relationship. No matter the combination of identities she may have held, it is easy to see she was queer.

Looking at her life, it’s hard to fit her into any label. Calling her a feminist icon seems inappropriate when she discouraged women from giving speeches, but calling her an anti-feminist after all the time she spent fighting against sexist barriers is also incorrect. The idea that she was a docile, motherly figure doesn’t fit with the moments when she fought for equality and basic human decency. Even calling her a nurse falls flat in the face of the fact that she spent the majority of her career in theory rather than practice.

The one common thread in her life was her desire to remain behind the scenes; she wanted to be exceptional without the pedestal. Her shyness seems almost antithetical to the wide reach of her legacy. Clearing away all of the contradictions in her life, above all else, Nightingale was interested in doing her work and doing it well. It’s something easy to admire.

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